It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that our kids need lots of THINGS. We want to make sure they have all the newest educational toys, or the most popular toys at the time.
It’s important to realize that your kids don’t even really need all the THINGS their friends may have, or all the newest game systems or toys that come out. It’s so easy to get caught up in materialism, and give our kids lots of STUFF, while failing to give them the things they really need.
The truth is that some of the most important things that our kids REALLY do need, can’t be bought.
What DO our kids REALLY need?
1. Our unconditional love
They need to know beyond a doubt that we will always love them, and nothing they can do will ever change that. Think of the security this gives our kids!
2. Our acceptance
Do your kids feel that you accept them for who they are, or do they feel they need to change and measure up for you to accept them? It’s important that they feel accepted and loved for who they are.
3. Our affirmation and our praise
The best way to encourage positive behavior in our kids is by giving lots of sincere praise. Our kids need to know that we not only love them, but we also LIKE them. Giving lots of affirmation confirms to them that they are special to us, and loved.
4. Boundaries and rules that are enforced
Even though kids may complain about the rules, if you have a good relationship with them and have their heart, they will trust you and know those rules are for their good. Kids feel more secure and loved, when there are rules and boundaries in their home.
5. Opportunities to fail (that’s how they learn!)
Let your kids try new things, and don’t protect them from making mistakes. Some of the best lessons learned come from our mistakes.
6. Training and discipline
It is a Scriptural command that we bring our kids up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. It is our job to train and discipline them with love, while pointing them to God’s Word and what He says is right and wrong.
7. A knowledge of God and His Word
As Christian parents, the most important thing we can do is build faith in our kids. This comes as we teach them God’s Word regularly, and talk about it through out the day, relating it to all our activities and studies. This should be the foundation that all of our teaching and training rests on.
8. Character training
The best way to prepare a child for life is to teach, model, and promote the development of godly character. If a child is taught nothing else but character alone, he will be better prepared for life than those who are taught pure academics but no character. They really need character training!
9. Lots of time with their parents
The BEST gift you can give your kids, is the gift of your time.
10. A home that is filled with love and laughter
Kids need a safe place where they feel the love, and where they enjoy being with those they love. We should work hard to keep our homes a place where our kids enjoy spending time.
What things would you add to this list?
Kathie
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Mother of 3 says
So, so very true! Actually one of the things I love about homeschooling is that it has really cut down on my boys believing they need quite so many material things. They still ask for lots of it; but not nearly as much as they used to when they were in public school and at least not it’s because it’s genuinely something they would like. I’ll never forget the winter my son insisted he needed an ipod touch for Christmas because “everyone” had one!….. he could not tell me what he would use it for or what it did. Needless to say he did not get one and still does not have one. He finally realized it was just a fancy MP3 player and he already owned one of those.