As moms, or just as women really, it’s so easy to fall into the comparison trap.
We compare ourselves to our family members, friends, neighbors, and even the strangers that pass us on the street.
We compare our parenting style, our possessions, our personality, our education and career, and even our looks to people that are not us.
We are not meant to be just like one another; God created us each unique and special.
However, this is something I have struggled with my entire. life. Comparing myself to others.
From comparing the toys I had with the ones my friends had, to comparing my abilities on the soccer field to the other players, the comparison game started at a young age for me. And it continued on as I became a mother and wife – comparing myself to the mom that hosted playgroup with the cutest crafts and perfect snacks and that always looked absolutely amazing, and to the pregnant women I pass at the store that are skinnier than me when I’m not pregnant!
And I know I’m not alone.
What I’ve come to realize over the years is that more than likely, these women that I compare myself to, these women that I feel I fall short to – they are struggling too. They have fallen into the trap too. And what we see of each other’s lives is really just the surface. We don’t see everything underneath.
That talented athlete you compared yourself too – she doesn’t feel good enough because she is always in her sister’s shadow. That skinny pregnant lady you gawked at in the grocery store – she is struggling to gain weight and fears she is not able to nourish her baby. That mother you passed at the zoo with eight children who seems to be so full of patience – she just yelled at her children before they all got out of the van and now she is full of guilt.
We all fall short. But in Him we are perfect. He made us perfect. He made us just how we were meant to be.
I often wonder if I am doing enough as a mom, as a wife, as a homeschooler. I worry that I’m not reading enough books to my children, or that I’m not feeding them the healthiest foods, or that I’m not submitting to my husband well enough. The list can really go on and on.
When we live with Him and for Him, we are complete. We are enough. You and I are enough because He completes us. He fills any void that we have, anything that we are lacking.
I’m still a work in progress, and probably always will be, but I am committed to stop feeling insecure with myself and start feeling secure in Him.
I am enough! You are enough! We are enough!
I love this shirt from Cents of Style because it is an excellent reminder to myself that I am enough. When I wear it, I hope it speaks to other women as well, reminding them that they too are enough.
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